Pic courtesy- Joyjeet Mukherjee
It’s surprising that I actually wish to broach the topic, as like most others I felt 30 was supposed to herald the winter of my life. However landing in the 3rd decade proved to be a different story altogether and so far has been the most educative, enlightening period of my life. Here’s what being in my 30’s feels like:
Acceptance of body- My teenage years were spent trying to be skinny, leading to Anorexia and even Bulimia since there was no time for workouts. Despite all those efforts I never did appreciate myself. Strangely in my 30’s , with a jiggly belly (which I conveniently attribute to mommyhood) and the extra love handles I am more accepting. My motivation is fitness and not weight loss anymore.
Less stress and more action- The younger me lived in dream world, with her head in the clouds most of the time which led to anxiety and even depression when things didn’t work out according to the plan. Now I live in the moment and work towards my goals, without a care about results.
Realizing and working towards a higher purpose of life- Were we born to eat, drink & procreate before being rendered invalid and dependent on others? I have always been a spiritual person who believes in a higher purpose and life has only reinstated my views on this matter. I’m at a stage where I am more dedicated than ever to strive towards the goal.
Mortality-The physical body and material possessions will perish. I am not going to look young forever, what really matters is how we utilize our time on this planet.Every second is precious.
Less reaction- I was the angry young man’s female version. Now also I do get miffed, but don’t respond with the same ferocity as I did once upon a time. It’s such a humongous waste of energy that can be channelized and utilized better.
Value relationships - I revel in the joy of friendships and family.The happiness that surges inside when I spend time with my loved ones is inexplicable. It’s much better than that expensive trinket or that luxury shopping trip.
I believe in now- It’s annoying when people crib about their circumstances or keep procrastinating. The usual excuses- “let the kids grow up a little”, “next year definitely”, “I can’t decide”, et al. Well You know what the right time, man or situation may never come. In my 30’s I believe everything is and has to start right now!
More knowledge- without reading- Luckily I meet new people regularly belonging to a diverse spheres of professions ,age etc. and my interactions with them teach me a thing or two that I was unaware of before.
The world won’t change I have to- Nobody will change for me, or even circumstances. The change has to come within every individual. If everyone introspected instead of pointing fingers at others and whining about the torrent of unfavourable circumstances, the world would be a very happy place.