The heading is
definitely not meant to be controversial or an eyeball grabber but my personal opinion. Relationship here does not mean any one
specific kind but it’s the term in general- whether that of a mother and child,
siblings, friends or even lovers. The struggle for power therefore is at the
root of the prevalence of unhealthy relationships.Oh and please note this only
pertains to unhealthy relationships.
The purest
relationship considered is that of a mother and child. How does one then explain
the fact that this love disappears (practically) when the child marries someone
of his/her choice or does not follow the career path his/her parents charted-out?
You may validate that by citing anxiety or concern as the cause but when you
delve deep it’s nothing but the Mother/Father somewhere subconsciously sensing
the loss of power. Afterall s/he also is a human-being and to be in control is
a human tendency. Nobody wants their lives to fall apart. There have been
numerous cases of parents disowning children for not ceding to their wishes and
never seeing them again or for a very long time to say the least. Generally
they come around and in most cases get back to being a family once again.In some
extreme cases though parents who sired the children even end up killing them
for the sake of “honour”.
Friendship- most of
the bonds that we made as friends while we were young and kids were devoid of
any motive, any judgement and continue strong into our adulthood and hopefully
for life. But consider those publicly declared“friends forever” that we met
later in our lives- when we had settled into our professions and even matrimony-
how many of these last?Well, most of them filter out. #Friendsforever (or #bff)
one day and blocking each other on social media the next. Think again, what
happened? Well it’s the ego that subtly clashed and didn’t want to give-in or
surrender.
Siblings- you grow up
together, sharing every toy, memory, crush, even clothes. The same people don’t
even flinch when it’s time to drag the other to court for something as petty as
money or land. How can something so materialistic kill a bond that begins at
birth? The yearning to be richer and more powerful triumphs over this bond-
unfortunate indeed.
Love- isn’t this the
most abused four-lettered word in English vocabulary? Everyone using those 3
words casually but how many of us say that sincerely and mean it. And if we
did, why do relationships fail? How can love disappear, vanish? One moment I
feel 10 feet tall and the next I want to lay on the floor forever- what the
hell happened. What is supposed to be unconditional was subjected to
conflicting schedules, temperaments and contradictory expectations which are
nothing but an extension of our personalities or egos. The constant assault drove
the mush away and in its place leaves two broken individuals. Anything that’s
broken can be repaired. It needs nurturing and care but the Ego prevents any
initiative to reconcile or making efforts and the individual chooses to remain broken than become wholesome
again.
The
relationships that last are always the
ones where either parties are completely vulnerable and open with each other.There’s
no winning or losing in a successful relationship. It’s unconditional, knows
how to give and is devoid of expectations.At the same time it’s impulsive, in
the moment and pure.
If you want your relationship to last, you must be willing to communicate and express your feelings in a certain manner that your partner will understand. You must be willing to put down your pride and know your priorities, something that is often discussed via WritingDaddy college paper writing service online topic.
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